Some say that love is a chemical imbalance in the brain, designed to make humans want to pro-create which ensure the world’s population continues. Although this is not a romantic way of thinking, in today’s day and age there seems to be a pattern of which many couples go through, the step towards this pattern is moving in with each other.
Moving in with your other half is a daunting aspect, it really is a make or break part of the relationship that will test the compatibility and the patience of each party involved, this blog post is designed to help you deal with any domestic conflict.
Conflict is perhaps best described by Hychzynski and Buchanan (2007) as a process that stars when one party involved is seeing something that another person or persons involved has negatively affected or something about to be negatively affected, this of course is usually something that the first person involved cares about in some way shape or form.
1: Ask questions:
It’s easy to presume what is wrong, but it is also easier than that to get it wrong, so ask questions and be sure, that way appropriate responses can be made to the situation.
2: Analyze expectations
When moving in with someone, it’s important to understand what you both want from this step, or what you both want from each other.
3: Recognize differing perspectives
You may notice that your partner is more open about his or hers feelings about different subjects, you will have many differences of opinion; you may not care if the bed is laid straight away, whereas your partner will want things kept neat and tidy.
4. Identify mistakes
Know when you’ve been wrong, it’s common for stubborn minded people to not want to identify the times their wrong, but in order to keep a healthy relationship and happy home life it is essential to know when you’re wrong and why.
5: Watch out for emotional triggers
This will be of much help to males; females can be especially emotional and more so at a certain time of the month, but with both sexes; know when your partner is more angered, more sensitive and learn the ways of which is best dealt with these emotions and be understanding of their feelings.
6: Focus on preventing escalation
The best defence is a good offence, as with the above step, make sure you know how to prevent situations that will cause a conflict situation. Example: clean up after yourself if you know her parents are coming to visit or knowing not to ask what the football score is, if it seems they may have lost.
7: Take action to control the situation.
When conflicts do occur, don’t sweep them under the rug, make sure you deal with the issue.
8: Commit to working it out
If the relationship is something you are both committed to, then so should you be about finding resolutions to common conflicts you may have.
9: De-escalate the conflict
Once conflict issues are prepared for and controlled when occur, you should find that conflict becomes a rare occurrence that you can both deal with sensitively.
10: Stay calm
Mckee, J (2009)